Ep 4 - The white rose Superhero date
Here’s my confession about Bachelor.
I find it exciting and annoying.
Exciting because I’m a hopeless romantic - I cheer when there is a kiss.
Annoying - partly for the girls not ‘getting’ why he might be attracted to different types of girls.
Annoying that some of the girls don't seem to get that everything is on ‘roids’; Snezanna nails it on the head later on in the show.
All emotions are magnified, all dates are ridiculously over the normal top. The makeup ,the cocktail parties, the friendships. All so heightened and exaggerated.
However whilst I sympathise with the girls that are struggling watching Sam go on dates and having great dates with the other girls, the cattiness of hte girls that haven't been on dates annoys the shit out of me. I find it astonishly brilliant that the girls that have gone on 1:1 dates are all the level headed intelligent ones that don't egt caught up in the games and petty comments about the other girls. Sam is a top bloke in my eyes so far.
Ladies... You knew these feelings would come up , you're on a show about 'competing' for love for heavens sake - or if you didn’t why not??
The thing that gets up my goat the most is the sabotage, I know insecurities come up and fears play out, but LADIES… please, have some self control with your conduct. more about Jasmin later..
Which leads me to Heather sneaking out the house. Love this move, she's doesn’t have to let the questions and ‘stuff’ affect her beforehand.
It’s interesting that Emily doesn't think Heather is a threat to the other girls as they are just friends.
I find this annoying and confusing, Im not sure about you, persoanlly I WANT to be friends with my partner. Its such a great foundation to build a relationship on. I understand that being just friends is risky if its too much of a focus at the start but I truly think the fact they can have fun and be themselves with each other is CRITICAL.
BACK to that white rose scenario. Its funny watching her surprise him to ask him out for a date, seeing him peep out from behind the door he’s insecure about being seen in his trackies. Even fantastic men can be insecure too ladies!
Then we switch to the product placed Nissam, he’s driving her and rather sweetly he acknowledges "I know you’re a bit awkward”. I love that Heather is prepared to be vulnerable and to share and laugh about herself with him. This is important to note for later.... Emily and Jodi.
Heather picks a fantastic start to the date, by asking him to give her a personal training session. Wanting to see him in his element is such a great way of actually taking interest in what he does for a living, and lets him take the reins a little.
Then onto her workplace. They explore the range of props of her film studio and I'm sure she misses a kiss opportunity when they are trying on helmets. In fact I’m going to watch that scene again…. Oh nope, I’m wrong.
Onto the superhero photo shoot, very clever and I admire her adventurous side, they get up close and personal and i’m sue she will get access to some great photos for future reference.
Then there is a Jello session for a bit of a wrestle, an interesting choice but again I’m impressed with the risk taking and how she read his fun side.
He confesses that he’s had a brilliant day back at his place - such a smart move on her part to have quiet quality time (minus the camera crew of course). Its the perfect way to connect deeply, they can relax after having such a fun day.
Another smart move Heather, prepares dinner for him. Its easy to hang out without the pressure of ‘doing’ something. It works well, they get to talk openly and honestly about their upbringings. Sounds like she has had a pretty non conventional childhood - hats off to the producers for not sharing all of her personal details. He shares about his mum passing at the age of 15 and it really is a beautiful conversation. I note that there is not much physical contact but he admits that it’s the perfect first date.
Quite rightly when they are eating dinner, he raises that he’s worried about them being in the friendship zone. He asks whether she is concerned about them just becoming fantastic friends, he can’t see the transition from friends to ‘more.
http://tenplay.com.au/channel-ten/the-bachelor/extra/season-3/the-danger-zone
Heather provides a great response, stating she felt there was more and now worries that perhaps he didn’t feel the same. Oh god, Ive been there before myself. I deeply LIKE THE HONEST and open discussion.
Communication is the KEY to building something worthwhile. They are both prepared to state their fears but also be honest about their feelings. Folks reading this, you have to get past your fear of worrying what the person will think about your views, don’t build movies about what they might or might not say. Get it out in the open and talk honestly.
Their moment on the couch afterwards when he states “I think we should share more of these dates’ what do you think? And rather femininely she says OK, Yes please. Its a gorgeous moment of sharing.
He shares with the camera that 'his world has turned upside down' as Heather has shown many (more) sides to herself. That is the power of friendships, you can be yourself and be appreciated for all that you are when you share yourself.
Perfectly he gives her a rose to guarantee her through to the next round. The kiss then is beautiful and intimate (I’ve had those sorts of tender first kisses and they are amazing, although I’m sure a little more passion could be expressed if a bloody camera wasn’t watching them.
There will definitely be more first dates says Sam. Yeah.
Ebru and Emily in particular are 'shocked' when Heather returns to the house with a rose. LOL.
It’s funny how they compare ourselves to her and pigeon hole people. Isn’t it true that we can express ourselves differently in different circumstances and they haven’t seen her gorgeous femininity. Isn’t is true that he can be attracted to her complexity of fun and sensitive sides. Perhaps ladies, instead of focusing on Heather you should look at Sam and wonder if he’s actually right for you.
A great move when answering Jasmin’s question of whether there were any intimate moments (more of her later). Strategically Heather tells all of the ladies that they had a lot of fun but that there weren’t any intimate moments.
Onto the weekly group date
Rachael
Ebru
Jasmin
Sarah
Joni
Laura
Sandra
Sam states that he wants to see the girls laugh and their competitive streak. The one that catches his eye will get to stay into the evening for some campfire 1:1 time.
After some frolicking in the surf, the girls (fairly) drooling over his 8 pack he asks Jasmin for a quick chat. He shares that he picked her first to come on the date as he know’s she been having a tough time. Interesting. What’s even more interesting is that she walks off on him rather than maximise the time with him.
He then has a private chat with Laura which doesn’t go that well either. My take, Laura is too caught up in her career to know how to relate on a personal level.
The swim race, shows Joni has a weak side. Afterwards she takes some time out which rewards her with an invite to the evening campfire. He pays her a compliment about her outfit at a previous cocktail party and she pretty much dismisses it going on to talk about what she's looking for.
Now Jodi - I get that you’re a motivational speaker and personally being big on personal development myself, but I can’t help but felt that you’re missing him. Sam then comments to the camera that he isn’t sure there is enough between them. ba boom!
I guess the fact that she doens't get to stay for the campfire is pretty telling.
At the cocktail party Snezanna quite rightly mentions that its not ‘real’ dating, that ‘they’ (the ladies) have to fast forward the dating approach. Thanks for keeping it real, and seeng it for what it is. Smart lady.
On their return from the chat Sam gives her a parting kiss on the lips in front of the girls.
Jasmin then thinks that asking Snezzana WHY Sam kissed her would provide her with some answers.
Hey Jasmin, Um coz he wanted to and he’s comfortable and he likes her.
Here we get to the annoying part of the show. Jasmin just has to gossip to all the other girls, about the pec, what is your issue and cocern about the kisses, why make a big deal about it. May advise is this Jasmin. Grow up. Stop shit stirring and worry about yourself, not what the others are doing.
http://tenplay.com.au/channel-ten/the-bachelor/extra/season-3/chaos-at-the-cocktail-party
Heather comments to the camera that she is staying out of the game playing Quite right.
Perfect timing Sam comes to have a chat with her and ‘saves’ her front the awkwardness. It is then that Heather issues him with the gift of the poster from the superhero photoshoot. He loves it.
Sadly no intimacy from this, which leaves me a little uncertain. Although I guess pashing at the party is not the smartest move.
Onto the rose ceremony and they are told that 2 are going home.
Heather has a rose already from their date.
None were issued on the group date.
My picks for going home are Laura and Joni, or Jasmin.
The names are called out in this order.
There is a voice over from Joni. "Sam will be disappointed if Sam sends me home”. Wow.
Nina - what a beautiful gesture knowing she hasn’t been on a date yet
Jasmin - hm I’m surprised.
Jacinda
Snezanna
emily
Sarah
Bec
Sandra
Rachael
Ebru
So Joni and Laura are going home.
Joni then states at the end that "He’s clearly missed a catch letting me go, he is still working out what he wants, evidently it’s not me.”
Now I try not to get personal but Joni... I think this may be part of the problem, he wasn’t able to connect with you. There is self confidence and there there is what you said... twice.
That’s it for this week, we see a trailer of Sam and Nina going on the next 1:1 with a record breaking kiss? Oh dear this is going to get difficult for Sarah, Snez and Heather teh other 3 that have had 1:1 dates.
I still think Sarah and Snezanna are in the running but for now, Heather has done a good job on her date and Sam is doing a good job of picking ladies that are right for him.
